Posted by Julia | 6 min read
Clients sometimes want to party during
appointments. Drugs, alcohol, the whole club experience in a hotel room. I
don't do any of that and here's why.
First, mixing substances with sex work is
dangerous. Your judgment gets impaired when you need to stay alert. Clients can
take advantage when you're not fully aware.
Second, it's terrible for business. Drunk
or high providers give bad service. Clients notice and don't come back.
Third, some clients use substances to
pressure you into things you normally wouldn't do. They offer coke or expensive
alcohol to get you compromised.
I learned this early from other girls'
mistakes. My friend Ashley started drinking with clients. Thought it made
appointments more fun. Ended up in some really bad situations because alcohol
affected her decision-making.
Another girl I knew got into harder drugs
through client connections. Lost control of her business and safety pretty
quickly.
Now I have a strict no substances policy.
No drinking during appointments even if clients offer expensive wine. No drugs
ever, regardless of what they're willing to share.
Some clients get disappointed by this
boundary. They want the party girl experience. But those aren't clients I want
to work with anyway.
Good clients respect boundaries about
substance use. They understand it's about safety and professionalism.
The clients who push hardest about drinking
or drugs are usually the ones with other boundary issues too. It's a good
screening tool.
I've had clients show up already drunk or
high. Those appointments get cancelled immediately. Can't provide good service
to someone who's not coherent.
Plus drunk clients are unpredictable. They
might become aggressive, emotional, or unable to follow basic safety protocols.
The money isn't worth the risks that come
with intoxicated clients or substance use during appointments.
Some providers do party with clients
successfully. But it requires experience and risk management skills that new
girls don't have.
For anyone starting out, substances and sex
work don't mix safely. Wait until you understand the business better before
making those decisions.
Even then, the risks are significant.
Addiction, legal problems, safety issues, business reputation damage.
I'd rather keep my boundaries clear and my
head clear. Makes everything else about this work more manageable.
