The Night I Had to Call 911 (And Why I Almost Didn't)

Posted by Julia | 6 min read

It was my third appointment with a client named Steve. Previous meetings had gone fine. No red flags during screening or early dating appointments.

But something was different that night. Steve seemed agitated when he arrived. Jumpy, paranoid, talking fast.

I should have ended the appointment immediately. Instead, I tried to calm him down, thinking he was just having a stressful day at work.

That was a mistake.

Steve's behavior got more erratic as the evening went on. He started accusing me of trying to "set him up" for something. Thought I was recording our conversation. Became convinced someone was watching us.

When I tried to leave, he blocked the hotel room door.

"You're not going anywhere until you tell me who you're really working for," he said.

That's when I realized Steve was either having some kind of mental health crisis or was on drugs that were making him paranoid and aggressive.

I tried to stay calm and talk him down. But Steve was getting more agitated and wasn't listening to reason.

He wasn't physically violent but was clearly unstable and preventing me from leaving. The situation could escalate quickly.

I managed to get to the bathroom and call 911 from there.

The 911 operator asked what my emergency was and I froze. How do you explain this situation without admitting you're an Asian luxury escort?

"I'm trapped in a hotel room with someone who's acting erratically and won't let me leave," I said.

The operator wanted more details. Was I injured? Was the person armed? What exactly was happening?

I gave vague answers because I was scared about legal consequences if police figured out what I was really doing there.

When police arrived, I let them handle Steve while I grabbed my things and left quickly. Never found out what happened to him after that.

But the experience taught me important lessons about emergency situations.

First, don't hesitate to call for help when you feel unsafe. Worrying about legal problems is less important than your immediate safety.

Second, have a cover story ready for emergency situations. Practice explaining your presence at hotels in ways that don't automatically reveal escort work.

Third, trust your instincts about clients even during repeat appointments. People can change or hide problems that emerge over time.

I should have left the moment Steve seemed off that night instead of trying to manage the situation myself.

Emergency services exist to help people in dangerous situations. Don't let fear about sex work stigma prevent you from getting help when you need it.

Your safety is more important than protecting your business or avoiding awkward questions.