Posted by Julia | 5 min read
Every week I get messages from guys
claiming they want to be my sugar daddy. They promise thousands of dollars
monthly for minimal time commitment. Sounds too good to be true because it is.
Real sugar daddy relationships exist. But
95% of guys who contact you about it are running scams.
The classic scam: They send you a fake
check for way more than agreed. Ask you to deposit it and send back the
difference. The check bounces and you're out whatever money you sent.
Another version: They offer to pay your
bills directly. Get your account information to "help" you. Then they
clean out your bank account instead.
Or they want to set up weekly allowances
through payment apps. But first you need to verify your account by sending them
a small amount. That small amount is all they really wanted.
The red flags are obvious once you know
what to look for. They contact you first instead of you finding them. They
offer huge amounts immediately without meeting. They want financial information
upfront.
Real sugar daddies want to meet in personfirst. They understand that trust builds over time. They don't offer
life-changing money to strangers.
The scammers prey on girls who are
desperate for steady income. The fantasy of easy money makes people ignore
warning signs.
I've seen friends lose hundreds of dollars
to these scams. One girl gave a fake sugar daddy her bank login thinking he was
going to deposit money. He emptied her account instead.
Another friend deposited a fake $5,000
check and spent some of the money before it bounced. Had to pay back the bank
plus fees.
Even legitimate sugar arrangements aren't
as easy as they seem. You're essentially in a part-time relationship with
someone. That's emotional work.
Sugar daddies often want girlfriendexperiences. Texting throughout the day, remembering personal details, acting
interested in their lives.
Some want public appearances at business
events or social functions. You become part of their image management.
The boundaries get blurry fast. They're
paying you regularly so they feel entitled to more time and attention than
regular clients.
If you're considering sugar arrangements,
meet in person first. Start with smaller amounts to build trust. Never give
anyone your financial information.
But honestly? Traditional escort work is
usually more straightforward and profitable than sugar arrangements.
With regular clients, expectations are
clear and time-limited. With sugar daddies, you're always on call.
The "easy money" fantasy of sugar
arrangements is mostly marketing. Like most things in sex work, if it sounds
too good to be true, it probably is.
