The Sugar Daddy Scam: Why "Easy Money" Never Is

Posted by Julia | 5 min read

Every week I get messages from guys claiming they want to be my sugar daddy. They promise thousands of dollars monthly for minimal time commitment. Sounds too good to be true because it is.

Real sugar daddy relationships exist. But 95% of guys who contact you about it are running scams.

The classic scam: They send you a fake check for way more than agreed. Ask you to deposit it and send back the difference. The check bounces and you're out whatever money you sent.

Another version: They offer to pay your bills directly. Get your account information to "help" you. Then they clean out your bank account instead.

Or they want to set up weekly allowances through payment apps. But first you need to verify your account by sending them a small amount. That small amount is all they really wanted.

The red flags are obvious once you know what to look for. They contact you first instead of you finding them. They offer huge amounts immediately without meeting. They want financial information upfront.

Real sugar daddies want to meet in personfirst. They understand that trust builds over time. They don't offer life-changing money to strangers.

The scammers prey on girls who are desperate for steady income. The fantasy of easy money makes people ignore warning signs.

I've seen friends lose hundreds of dollars to these scams. One girl gave a fake sugar daddy her bank login thinking he was going to deposit money. He emptied her account instead.

Another friend deposited a fake $5,000 check and spent some of the money before it bounced. Had to pay back the bank plus fees.

Even legitimate sugar arrangements aren't as easy as they seem. You're essentially in a part-time relationship with someone. That's emotional work.

Sugar daddies often want girlfriendexperiences. Texting throughout the day, remembering personal details, acting interested in their lives.

Some want public appearances at business events or social functions. You become part of their image management.

The boundaries get blurry fast. They're paying you regularly so they feel entitled to more time and attention than regular clients.

If you're considering sugar arrangements, meet in person first. Start with smaller amounts to build trust. Never give anyone your financial information.

But honestly? Traditional escort work is usually more straightforward and profitable than sugar arrangements.

With regular clients, expectations are clear and time-limited. With sugar daddies, you're always on call.

The "easy money" fantasy of sugar arrangements is mostly marketing. Like most things in sex work, if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.